Found Safe NJ - Thomas Kolding, 15, Mountain Lakes, 30 Oct 2018

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So incredibly happy for his family.

I’m thinking he ran out of money and/or realized being a runaway in cold weather who can’t rent a car or a hotel room or get a job wasn’t as much fun as he imagined. He’ll have one heck of a college essay a few years from now...
 
I don’t think it’s so easy. He’s clearly struggling... mentally or emotionally or physically. Glad he has been found. I always wish we got updates after. I’m curious to the circumstances and motivations behind the decision to leave. Each story has meaning individually.
 
Gunslinging Granny said:
The dad is regurgitating statements from a therapist’s toolbox. Dad can’t call out his son on his outrageous behavior at this time, so Dad must say something else to dialogue with his son. This is why we think his words sound so odd. All that is left for Dad to say since he can’t call out his son’s horrid behavior, is to try to show unconditional love and honor him (oddly saying he respects and trusts Thomas).

Parents who had never experienced such behavior from a child would approach this in a very different, brutally honest manner. “Your mom, brothers, grandparents, and friends are suffering greatly. This is killing Grandma. Grandpa is having chest pains every night. Your mom has scabs under her eyes from crying continuously. Your brothers sit on our porch and cry every afternoon. We are extremely worried about you. Come home NOW, Thomas!”
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I mean, yeah, maybe. I can just tell you from experience that an accredited therapist, psychologist and even a psychotherapist wouldn’t take that approach. Appealing to the emotional aspect of things, maybe. However, a teen on the run that’s said he isn’t interested in being found is a whole other monster. That implies he’s 100% comfortable in his surroundings and confident he can make it on his own. My point was actually that the family is well-set, they have employed professionals to preserve their public appearance. You’d think they would have also sought the help of a family trauma specialist. If you’re paying to manage people’s perception of the problem, you’d think you’d also pay to manage the actual problem.
 
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