How Dorothy Sandusky Could Have Been Duped
by Darlene Ellison
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/11/26/how-dorothy-sandusky-could-have-been-deceived.html
When news of former Penn State assistant coach Jerry Sanduskys alleged sex crimes broke, I froze in my steps. My stomach knotted. A fog seemed to fill my head, and all I could think was Its happening again. Then I wonder if he has a wife and kids." I wasnt reacting as a college-football fan; I was reacting as the ex-wife of a pedophile.
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Often, as I eventually learned, these predators are masters of deceit, creating a façade of the ideal family to protect their image, or perhaps convince themselves that theyre not a deviant to society, all the while acting on their sick desire to engage in sexual acts with kids.
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While I would never be so bold as to presume what Sanduskys loved ones knew, it seems entirely plausible to me that he was living a secret life right under their noses; that he took great pains to hide his alleged abusive behaviors from those closest to him. Sex offenders families are often collateral damage to their crimes.
Of course, its also entirely plausible that Dottie and other adults living under his roof knew about these alleged criminal behaviorsand if this proves true, they should be tried for failure to report suspected abuse. But I know firsthand that someone can be married to a man for years, share a bed with him, raise children with him, and still have no clue that he spent his days as a predator of young boys. I never suspected a thing.
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As for Sanduskys family, I suspect they have many painful months ahead as they sift through the legal tornado of charges, the scrutiny of the public, and worst of all, if he's found guilty, the self-doubt of How did we not see this? Regardless of her actions, when the lights go out at night, Dottie is alone with her thoughts and must wonder, What has he done to these innocent boys? and Did he lay a hand on our children or grandchildren? We can only hope that, when the dust settles and those who knew of alleged abuses and did not report them are punished, this case provides us all with insight into the red flags of child predators. We can only hope that the light at the end of this very dark tunnel finds us empowered to do more to prevent child abuse.
Darlene Ellison, M.S., is the author of the award-winning book, The Predator Next Door. She addresses audiences across the country on overcoming obstacles and child-abuse prevention.
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