Yes, I have seen those programs they were good! What is interesting to me though, is that 3rd world parenting still includes the benefits of extended family which may make a huge difference to a child. Western models of parenting are less concerned with those values which have been eroded over time. It's often hard to be clear about our native Aboriginals because of the lineage of maternal caring, where all the mother's sisters are also considered to be the mother of the child, and vice versa.
It seemed a very instinctual and uncomplex way of parenting. Very interesting. I found the mom from the US interesting as well. The child had no time to explore and be left to learn and discover on her own. That's very important. It was too much. I think the idea that there is a right way and a wrong way and that the wrong way will irreversibly screw up your child has caused us in the US and in the Western world to try too hard and that can also have adverse affects as well, if small ones.
My friend's SIL and brother are very much like the mom in the US in Babies. Always had the child in classes and was always in her face with books and flash cards and all that trying to engage her. But it took her longer than normal to hit developmental milestones. By the time my daughter was walking and talking, their daughter was still not walking and barely talked and just had kind of a different way of interacting. My daughter was really connecting and bright and this girl was still behind. It took her a while. I figured this was because she wasn't left on her own enough for her brain to just learn on its own and grow and absorb things. That's a very important process. Just sitting back and letting the baby just explore sometimes is so essential. It's a delicate balance and it's hard to know when to pare back and when to get involved.
That's why this whole conversation, this right way and wrong way makes me uneasy. We have put sooo much pressure on parents not to screw their kids up and do it exactly right that we go overboard sometimes. It's truly mind boggling.
I know basically, it's important to parent with love and kindness and patience. I figured that if I did that, then it would go well. But sometimes you get overwhelmed. You can think you're doing it the right way then learn a dozen years from now that some people say that way is wrong.