Sorry, quite chatty this morning....LOL.
What I'm getting from a great deal of the back and forth posts, is that TA and his morals, etc as a Mormon is coming under intense scrutiny.
This is just what I'm taking away from it.
Apparently, TA went to Mormon functions, meetings, wore the "under garments, etc.
JA was baptized into the faith thru TA. I'm NOT in any way "in the know", so to speak, in anything Mormon. So, OK.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4495425_become-member-mormon-church.html
Wasn't there any preparation on JA's part to be "worthy" to be baptized into the faith???
Yesssss.
Didn't she read the book and go to classes or whatever????
(I'll "assume") Yesssss.
Does JA look "bound with tassels" and FORCED to be baptized?
Noooo.
I'm of the impression that JA had to be "schooled" in the faith by someone other than TA...just IMO.
JA knew full well what was or was NOT morally acceptable in the Mormon faith. ANYONE can convince themselves that there's a way around a set of society/faith rules.
I think it has to do with semantics.....ummm, "I DID NOT have "sexual relations" with that woman".......
JA CHOSE to follow the addendum that TA "might" have added to The Book of Mormon. She KNEW full well right what was acceptable and what wasn't. She went thru the teachings, supposedly, to be worthy to be baptized.
IF the whole "anal sex" thing is TRUE, she CHOSE to follow The Book of "Travis-ism"....and, apparently, accepted it. She knew IF she had any reservations, she knew how to go have a meeting with a bishop, or whomever.
You see, yet again IMO, I believe JA wasn't "abused", she was severely embarrassed that she went thru all these different things to MAKE herself deemed "marriage worthy" in TA's eyes.
It began during the "honeymoon" phase, when she thought she was going thru the necessary "steps" to become Mrs. TA....AND, at that time, so did TA.
As we all know now, something happened along the way....TA's mind changed, etc, etc.
This is what "I'm" thinking. I DO believed that the relationship started out "pure".
IMO, it was
JA who brought in the whole "semantics" into the relationship.
I honestly believe, TA was D.O.N.E with her. JA brought the "other" aspect into play thinking "maybe" a sexual aspect would bring him around.
On June 4th...IMO...Travis said "this time was the last time". Too bad he didn't realize how true those words would be.
Oh, and as far as being "used, abused and embarrassed".....how many of us catholic girls lost our virginity to a total jerk because we "thought" it would make the guy like us more, or stay with us???
May not be the same exact thing, but, THAT's the most compelling reason I believe JA initiated the "anal loophole"....