I have progressed in this case. I look at the inside of all toilet paper rolls. I look at the inside of all paper towel rolls (Yes, there is a number in there, just to save you the trouble). I guess garbage bags and Clorox bottles are next. Dangit!
I am not sure I agree with this.
I have so many friends who are oblivious to their kids problems. They are involved moms/dads, loving, caring- it's in no way a lack of love. It's a head in the sand situation. I can honestly say I am not like that so it's sorta hard for me to grasp. I tend to take the bull by the horns... but a dear friend, gosh, her kid... ugh, anyway, I've encouraged her to do what I've done in the past- random drug tests. She firmly believes there is no reason, her son would never do such a thing. (And lawdy at the stuff WE did in high school! ha!) He's overall a good kid, but IMO, drug use needs to be addressed and a parent needs to be aware of it. Thinking back to the way we were in HS, I am surprised she is as clueless as she is... she just sees a halo over her sons head. Me? I see horns until they SHOW me the halo- hubby has told me to trust them just a little...
Yeah. Ignore it and it will go away. I have seen it also. Maybe some people need to micromanage more. I hate the term micromanage....but...in certain situations.....it needs to happen. My oldest girl....now in college....turned out great....I asked her...how did you turn out this good....was it me?
What was it? She said, just as much you as me. This being said. Being a parent is a hard job. Guiding your children is not as easy at it anyone believes. Being a single dad with 2 girls is hard to resolve. People ask...how do you do it? How do you answer that question. You just do.
I read that he was causing problems in his neighborhood. Maybe his mother was aware. If she wasn't, I would be surprised. I don't think he should have been necessarily arrested for any of those other episodes. It is possible she had him involved in special treatment programs for whatever it is that was the issue with him. On his fb page, he had taken off at least once and people were looking for him.
Do we know yet who started the fire(s) before his arrest? I'm inclined to believe it was him. I agree with the elephant in the room i.e. mental illness. However, sexual violence and deviancy is something I truly don't believe can be controlled or treated. Clearly, he was addicted to smoking pot to the point where he needed to hook up with strangers to acquire his "420" fix. I have to wonder if his mother was spending time elsewhere and leaving him alone in the home?
Mom worked a long way away, very long drive especially in traffic..
Interesting. Especially since he used her car to transport and dump Alanna's body.
Parents always know. If they don't know, they are not doing their job as a parent!
I disagree. My parents didn't know chit. :floorlaugh: I was very discreet though.
My daughter on the other hand, couldn't get away with anything. Poor girl got caught every time..
Did her borrow her car after she returned from work?
I disagree. My parents didn't know chit. :floorlaugh: I was very discreet though.
My daughter on the other hand, couldn't get away with anything. Poor girl got caught every time..
As long as my children are in my home, I know! They don't get away with anything. TH's Mom had to have a clue! Come on..it's not like he was just sneaking out of the house. He was a nuisance to the neighborhood, had online encounters at the household and I am sure many other "things". Huge difference between being a little discreet and TH's lifestyle. Mom knew something. JMO
My mom is 77 and my brother and I can still shock her with things she never knew!!! :floorlaugh: But, back in the day, if you lit a match in the house at 9am she could smell it at 5pm after work. She thought the worst we could do was smoke cigarettes! She was the "match patrol" for smoking prevention.
However, as mischievous as we were, we were not menacing...:blushing:
I am pretty sure that by acting alone police mean he had no help with anything. If anybody helped him to dispose the body they would be an accomplice after the fact. So appears police has ruled out any accomplices.
Once again, we see LE has lots of info we don't.
I don't think I want to buy a used car unless I know the person. Picture stepping into that car thinking of little Alanna every time
The Gallaghers could also sue the mom. She was aware of his problems but did little to control him or monitor him. He was also a truant.
http://www.nj.com/gloucester-county...ng_to_take_responsibility.html#incart_m-rpt-1
I think the confusion of him using "Mom's" car is that she owned both vehicles. He did not own his own car, he did not work to have the money to own his on vehicle. I still think that the reason for his haphazard actions was that he was hurrying before his mother returned home.
He told LE that he went for a job interview that day.
Probably asked his mom if he could use her car to go to the interview.
He could have dumped her body and gone on to the interview.
LE probably checked the location of the interview. If he did in fact go on it.
Parents always know. If they don't know, they are not doing their job as a parent!
Mom worked a long way away, very long drive especially in traffic..
I have to wonder if she was afraid of him...
MOOJeff Holder said his daughter lived with him and her mother after having the baby.
After the divorce, Jeff Holder and his new wife, Gina, bought Kimberly Holder a mobile home and set it on their property so she could live there with her son, then around 2, he said. A boyfriend of Kimberly’s also lived there.
Gina Holder remembers Tyler Holder as a “wild child,” a little-bitty kid who had to be forced to eat his macaroni and cheese and was on medicine for hyperactivity.
“He had a mind of his own, for sure,” Gina Holder said. “Even when he was young, he was hard to correct. He was hard to corral. … It was his way or no way.”
Gina Holder said her husband asked his daughter to leave after they found the mobile home trashed, with drug paraphernalia inside. She said Kimberly Holder and her son drifted apart from the couple after that.
Jeff Holder said his daughter and son stopped talking to him altogether after a dispute involving his ex-wife at a hospital after his son was injured in a motorcycle wreck.
Jeff Holder said all he had to remember his grandson by is a framed photograph of the boy from 2002, posing in a football uniform, that is hanging in his Boyd home.
“He looked like a sweet little kid,” he said.
http://www.star-telegram.com/2013/07/24/5026216/saginaw-suspects-grandparents.html