I was not in anyway commenting on RA as a person or the fact that she didn't have a good heart. It is good that people want to and do see the good side of people, that does not mean you have to marry them and subject yourself and your children to their repeated lack of self control and irresponsibility. There were RED FLAGS from the beginning of their relationship and it is not her I have opinions about, it is the situation I have opinions about.
Yes CC had a serious criminal history, he had 2 to 3 wives prior and his own children that he did not communicate with, I'm sorry but as a mother myself those are some serious red flags that I just would not put myself or my children into that relationship and the boys fathers are mad as heck about it and I fully understand why. You can see the good in someone but when someone is as old as CC is and has the criminal history he does, has his own children whose lives he is not a part of does that not tell you something about the sort of person he is???? If he didn't care about his own children he certainley isn't going to care about someone else's children.
For someone to come on here and publicly voice their opinion about one of her sons fathers when he and his wife and child are literally grieving and sick over the fact that this little boys mother is gone is just not necessary at this time. Quite obviously whatever anyone thinks about her ex husband cannot even come close to what CC put her and all her children through. I am totally supportive and understanding of the fact there are two sides to every story and everyone perceives things differently as well, I am just saying that maybe now is not the time to voice opinions to the fathers new wife about whatever sort of issues they have with him. They are doing their very best to keep it together and want answers and justice just as much as anyone, they are absolutley sick that 4 childrens mother and a grandmother is gone. Maybe people could be offering support to these fathers instead of opinions about the past. People that care about her and her children could be offering their support to them and their fathers right now, they are after all in some serious emotional termoil and grief as well. It is very disheartining to see these fathers and these two young boys wondering everyday, will we get some answers, what do we tell the boys, where is mommy.
Do not take my post as a comment as to her as a person I already stated I did not know her and I'm not in any way insinuating that she wasn't a good mother or didn't have a good heart, obviously she has 4 children, grandchildren and many wonderful friends that are grieving for her, my point is I with all of my heart wish she had never gotten into this relationship. I am simply putting the facts out there so that hopefully people will be become more aware that there are just some people you should not let into your life no matter how good you want to believe they are.
I support this whole family and I absolutely want her to come home, even if she didn't have children, no one deserves to be in this situation most of all children. I am just saying to others, that when you have children please think of them don't just get involved with someone that has a bad past and you want to believe they are good now, do not ignore the red flags. Be supportive of their good qualities but don't marry them and allow them to drag you and your children down with them.
Yes I posted the facts that she was aware of his history because it was a fact, she had confided in her youngest sons father and when he offered to come stay at the house with her and the boys or for them to come stay with him, when her tires were being slashed and she was scared for her life and someone was watching her through her windows and making scary phone calls to her, she flat out declined and told him her personal life was none of his business. Well I'm sorry but I do not agree with that at all! When you have a child with someone your personal life is very much their business, especially when the safety of children are involved. Can any of us even imagine if something had happened to either of these boys because of this situation? I hate to even think about the fact that they could have been with her that night. She is obvioulsy a strong woman but that is not enough to stop a crazy person from doing what they will to you or your children.
