housewife
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RBBMThe problem for many woman is they’re in love with the boyfriend’s image that they have in their mind (or in loving, fun filled good-looking couple pics) and not with who he really is. What’s worse is they often think they can change him.
For Gabby I wonder that as she’d thrown everything into the vanlife vlogging, she wouldn’t admit, even to herself, that she made the wrong choice in her partner. Maybe it was all about pride. I’m certainly not blaming her for that. As common as relationship breakups have become, it saddens me there’s still a tendency for people to judge, take sides and lay blame including speculation about who’s at fault when couples break up. We see it regularly when high profile marriages fall apart. Until that changes, sadly I think it’s hard for young women to find the courage to leave an unhealthy relationship, sometimes for fear of being perceived as a failure. JMO
It's hard for all people to leave an abusive relationship. If it seemed as though Gabby didn't make a big deal about her abuse in Moab, it was because she knew speaking up about it would anger Brian even more. Domestic abusers employ many controlling tactics on their victim, including gaslighting (making Gabby doubt her own abilities to publish a blog, to succeed on her own). Coercive control essentially brainwashes the victim into feeling trapped.