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Thanks for your reply. Thanks to everyone else too who shared their thoughts and opinions on this topic.
No argument from me about the temperament of those who are attracted to nursing, as well as the other helping professions.
Everyone who posted has shown clearly that nurses are givers. We willingly go the extra mile and beyond. We put up with conditions that others never would. We take all our commitments seriously.
There's good reasons why nursing has been voted the most trusted profession by the public, for 15 years in a row.
http://www.nursingworld.org/Homepag...NI/Nurses-Rank-1-Most-Trusted-Profession.html
The core of nursing is caring. Caring means feeling concern, empathy, and compassion for others.
Being caretakers, it's no wonder those values can easily lead many to choose the wrong partner.
I agree with that. Being assertive for patients doesn't mean a nurse will not be in an abusive relationship. I sincerely apologize if I gave the other perception. My Egyptian coworker was in a very abusive relationship for years before she got out.
I believe when many nurses realize they are in abusive relationships, they may try harder to stay. They want to fix things. To heal things. They put others before themselves. That's how nurses are wired.
But I believe the act of speaking up for a patient helps that nurse, over time, to find her voice to speak up for herself.
The knowledge that the abuse is wrong has been ingrained in her throughout her education and work experience. I believe it then becomes a tool to give her a better chance of getting out.
Not a guarantee but a better chance.
I believe several people said that in their posts - that it wasn't easy but they learned to stand up for themselves and got out.
That is most important. They're not in abusive relationships now, and they're being careful not to get into another.
Domestic violence is epidemic. That's why the stats in your links looked so odd to me. That one study, referenced by both, and based in the United Kingdom, stated: "Some 14% of nurses have been victims of domestic abuse in the last year, with one in 50 suffering injury. This compared with a national average of 4.4%"
National average of 4.4%??
Those stats sent me searching for results of domestic violence in the USA. They told a much different story. The study I've linked below states the average rate is almost one in every three women! Almost 33%, not 4.4%.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...ced-domestic-violence/?utm_term=.5318257caec9
That's a huge difference. Are the women in these two countries really treated that much differently? I would guess it's more an error in reporting.
I couldn't find any stats for domestic violence against American nurses. Any violence is too much, but I wonder if it's more or less than the American average of almost 33%.
Not sure what any of this means, if anything, because it's all conjecture, generalities, and opinions.
Don't know if it even applies to Sini.
It's my opinion though that she did not leave a 3 year old, defenseless child home alone because she was too scared of her husband.
She advocated for children in her job, but was too scared to advocate for her own? Not buying it.
She walked out and closed that door behind her. She knew what she was doing. ' Evil' is the only word that can explain that, imo.
My hope is that Sherin died quickly before they went out to eat. The thought of that poor child being left there alone, frightened and helpless, just tears my heart out...
JMO
