What would I do?
Let me preface this by saying that I believe that not all bullying is bad.
Some "bullying" serves a legitimate function.
Gross I know, but say a kid is picking and eating his own boogers at the lunch table.The kid gets taunted and teased about it often enough that he eventually stops.
Was this "bullying" bad or good?
In a case of my child getting bullied for wearing an outfit that's not bio gender appropriate, they would never leave my house like that in the first place. I know first hand how cruel kids can be and there is such a thing as asking for trouble.
Theres plenty of time to express ones self in college where people are generally more mature and accepting.
IMO a lot of this stems from parents refusing to be parents and trying to be their child's best friend instead.Children (and yes even teenagers) are not little adults and shouldn't be treated as such until theyve earned that right and shown the maturity necessary for the role.
As far as suicide goes, its one of the most selfish acts a person can commit and is absolutely inexcusable under any circumstances IMO.
Its also kind of dumb in this case.
Those people hate and pick on me and make fun of me so Ill just kill myself............yeah that will show em.
It sort of appears that your posts suggests that suicide is always inexcusable, but bullying of children may be excusable, which is a significant double standard, IMO.
Further, the post seems to suggest that bullying of those who do not conform to socially constructed gender norms serves a legitimate function. By that do you mean that it serves to force kids to conform to those gender norms? It may. It also causes some of them to kill themselves.
It's fine if some feel a child should not be able to express their identity with non-conforming dress until college. It is not fine that anyone, IMO, may think any form of bullying that addresses kids who do not have parents who feel that way, is ever appropriate or legitimate in any way, shape or form.
Also, I think we all need to understand what bullying really is. Telling a kid once, ''Oooh, Josh, that's gross! quit eating your boogers!" is quite different from re-posting photos of the child, mocking the child's appearance and labeling him or her with epithets like f@ggot, with dozens of people posting means-spirited things about the child, over and over again.
A direct example of bullying using the booger eating example would be children continually mocking the booger-eater, telling him that he's horrible, will be burning in hell, maliciously whispering, over and over again, whenever a teacher is not present or listening, "dirty booger eater. No one likes you, you creep."
It appears that some adults sanction bullying, either overtly or covertly, because the bullies are enforcing stereotypes or reinforcing the adult's world view, or prejudices or biases, so suddenly, conduct that cannot and should not ever be condoned, is somehow okay.
Such an attitude is sad, IMO. Bullying in any form is never okay, and should never be allowed. It serves no legitimate purpose even if it serves to support the biases of certain parts of our society. To me, the only purpose it serves in such a context is to punish a child for not conforming to the prejudices of others. That's not okay.