How was Tammy in charge? Chad got to do what he wanted. Tammy didn't want to move to Rexburg, but Chad decided he had a vision or a promoting or whatever you call it, and there was Tammy and family, moving to Rexburg. He obviously got what he wanted by claiming he talked to dead grandma' spirit, had a prompting, had a vision, etc.
If I recall correctly, this did not go over very well with Tammy initially. She definitely spoke her mind. Then Chad told her to forget about it. Then she "prayed" later on and went along with it. If this behavior is consistent for Chad, this sounds like "manipulation" to me, especially if this has worked for him in the past. JMO
You would be amazed what people believe in the LDS religion after they "pray". If you spend anytime in the LDS forum, you will see how members "pray" and get very different answers to doctrinal teachings. JMO
Just some personal observations:
- What happens when you have a huge ego while you are praying?
- In Tammy's case (just speculating) What happens when you are praying and feel guilty, or not worthy of getting that same "prompting" that your husband has.
- What happens when you are extremely passionate about something, that you "pray" about?
There are many other questions like this, but I think you get the point.
These are questions I have discussed with my own children, and I keep in mind when I do pray. Personally I use the scriptures as a measuring stick, and a guide. If I get an answer that is counter to what the scriptures teach, I discard it. JMO
My point, is that this may help those who are not LDS understand how someone may be able to justify their actions, if taken to the extreme.
MOO