10ofRods
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No we didn't look at the community college for classes for an educational benefit. My daughter had over 60 CC credits going into VT. The CC college lead us to believe these classes would transfer towards a degree, they were NOT dual enrollment classes, hit full college classes. HA...VT only allowed credit as an elective towards a degree. We also checked the other schools she was accepted to UVA, William and Mary and several private college, all the same. CC classes are a joke when transferring, money is better spend on a 4 year college, unless its a 2 year program.
Yes, we do have programs for juniors and seniors HS student to live on campus/ online and take HS and college classes, graduating in 4 yeard with a four year degree. We looked at this when daughter was in HS. Colleges flood the academically gifted students with invites to participate in these programs, We even went to the Johns Hopkins parent weekend program. Its more pressure than we wanted to expose our daughter to. Our goal was to raise a successful, happy, well rounded, social adjusted child to adulthood. Giving her the best opportunity for financial independence, as well as being a good mother and wife, if she chose.
Mental health for all students is very important. Isolation is a leading cause of depression, suicide and mental health problems. Just Google....her parents and I have read many studies. This is especially true for outgoing, energetic and socially active kids and adults. Hardly a day goes by we don't read of folks committing suicide.
Education is more than academics, imho. It builds long lasting friendships, leadership skills, socialization skills, and the tools we need to survive in everyday life. An education or degree is of little use, if employees don't have/use socialization skills. They can become known as the difficult employee that doesn't get along with others, can't work in groups, bullies others, and overbearing. Most of us know the "kind" of person I speak of, smart but no fee like.
NO, socializatiom doesn't end with HS, in MY world. It's only the beginning of sharing the up and downs, successes/failure, meeting kids and grandkids of my fellow class mates. My elementary school classmates and I still have a yearly picnic at the park just like we did in school. We even do a bike ride though the old neighborhood, for those of us that can still ride. LOL Many of our former teachers and classmates of all ages, attend, we print memory books yearly to give out. It's advertised in the newspaper, radio and TV. Its great see everyone's family, kids and grand kids. Our oldest attendee is 94 yo our youngest just days old.
I/We want well rounded, happy kids, not kids living in fear. Fear is the adults job, not a burden I'm willing to place on kids who are already struggling with a lockdown.
I do believe and teach all children I encounter Universal Precautions. That's what we call it with the Gkids. Even the 5 yo, runs to wash his hand before eating, willing puts on his mask in public and never touches anything. Not from fear, but from education.
I'm more interested in raising grandkids that can successfully cope with what every the world throws at them. This may not be the only pandemic or world crisis my grandkids will experience in their lifetime. I am committed to teaching them how to live anything in the world throw at them.
So, as you can see your views and suggestions will not work in the environmental I strive to create. But I do thank you for the time and thought of your response and it may help others.
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I appreciate your words. I'm a grandparent too, and am now entering my 43rd year of teaching. I too have the best interests of young people and children at heart. I seriously do not think that one year (or nine months) out of a teenager's life is going to ruin their future social lives.
I'm not at all interested in giving longterm worldview tips about raising children, so I'm sorry and perplexed that that's how you took it.
I am more interested in making sure our young people get the education they need. I also want an end to CoVid.
Sounds like many people will risk the increase in CoVid until science comes up with a vaccine. I'm not sure I like the lesson that teaches young people and I don't think resilience comes from taking risks that endanger others, so we certainly disagree on that.
But most of all, I'm stunned that you'd imply that some of the rest of us, especially people whose entire lives have been devoted to young people, have a different worldview in which we think kids should be indefinitely isolated. They're not, even now. If we could reverse their involvement with online social platforms, that would be a miracle - and not desirable.
I'm very sorry that you're seeing so many suicides in your area. We're not seeing that in mine. We're seeing more domestic violence (against spouses, against kids), but the increase in suicides among young people is not nationwide. Perhaps it depends on the degree to which kids were already dependent on school/sociality for their mental health. If I lived in an area where that was happening, I surely would be urging more real world school opportunities (my own view is that parents should be offered a choice - but I've said here many times, that self-selection will result in the kids who do go to school...being in a different environment, because many many parents will opt to keep their kids home right now - and that will skew who is in the schools).
The research on suicide during CoVid hasn't focused on isolation from peers, but it does show that fear of CoVid and worry about getting it is leading to increased suicides. Older people seem particularly vulnerable. The article below scrubbed the record for the "why" of recent suicides - none were noted among young people, but perhaps there is state-by-state research going on.
impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on suicide rates
Young people are by nature resilient. Problems with depression and anxiety were rampant before CoVid and I have yet to see data that says it's worse right now. In fact, one thing we've never discussed here is the apparent drop in opioid related deaths (which would imply that during CoVid the supply chain was disrupted - because it does require a social nexus to acquire the drugs).
Here in SoCal, some online kids are being given social opportunities to have "lunch hour" and "recess" in parks (socially distanced, masked) and it's being paid for by CARE funds. It's a good compromise. The kids remain in their ordinary neighborhood groups and tutoring will be available outdoors in the afternoon as well. The adult to child ratio is really good and there is educational counseling as well. Opportunities of this sort are springing up as we sit about 3 weeks out from school reopening. Surf camp went all summer - and will continue as long as weather allows (kids get 3 hours a day together just to have fun).
Lots of solutions besides putting teachers at risk, IMO.