As a DV victim myself, Chandler PD was AWFUL (my multiple experiences)
I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope you are safe and far away from danger now!
What do we have to do to get our PDs (& that's a nationwide question) to take these charges seriously? Or get them to work with professionals who can better assess situations and direct to proper services?
Having worked in healthcare/mental health years ago, I understand how many times in the cool light of day charges get dropped and accusations recanted. Having been in those relationships long, long ago (but never again!), I also understand the next-day "I'm sorry, and I SWEAR I'll never drink/scream/chase you with a chainsaw again" apologies seem sincere (I was never chased with a CS, but it seems like an all-inclusive metaphor?). Plus that ridiculous sense of investment, whether for kids or for having survived so many bumps in the road or whatever, that keeps victims trying to restore order in a futile relationship. I absolutely get it.
So yeah, officers do a lot of paperwork that ends in the shredder, I get that, too. They're asked to be social workers, mediators, all sorts of things that was never their job, and their training usually logs in at less than you need to be a hairdresser or barber (maybe that's why hairstylists end up being informal psychiatrists..? Not really!).
The deck is stacked on all sides, it seems. It's so frustrating.
@arizonamomoffour I really hope times are better for you now, and should any threats still exist, I hope you have resources lined up to keep youself and your kids safe. And I hope your children noted your demonstration that abuse is not acceptable and will understand that in their relationships in the future!