RedHaus
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I completely agree with this post and have a confession & a question.
When I watched the bodycam video I saw what I perceived to be a male DV victim and hysterical/unstable female perpetrator. I saw marks on his body and none on hers. Obviously I was wrong, for which I feel terrible, but hindsight is a thing.
My question is: what should I have seen? What did I miss (& not just me but experienced/trained police officers too!) I thought they’d handled the situation extremely well, but there’s old hindsight again.
RIP Gabby, I hope your family gets justice.
I LOVE that you ask this question @Purplepixii. I could probably write a treatise in response and I am sure others are more "expert" at explaining human behavior than I am. But I've been there, I know how Gabby was feeling. So I can try to provide you with the clues you may have initially missed.
1. Her defensive body language - clutching herself - around her waist, around her face - holding tight to protect herself and hang on to reality.
2. Her uncontrolled sobbing - she is in terrible pain from having someone she loves hurt her - it is a most penetrating and awful emotional trauma
3. Her difficulty communicating - making salient points is hard - her mind is overwhelmed with stress as she is probably in the midst of a "flight" survival response.
4. Her sitting posture- in the back of the police SUV is hunched over, head hanging low, silent, looking around scared - her terror has regressed her to a scared little girl.
If Gabby had been the true aggressor, and not a defender of her self - her life - her ego - she would have come across angry to LE... righteous, indignant, frustrated.
All IMO.
ETA: to correct acronym for LE
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