Responding to this post..
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showpost.php?p=1948490&postcount=265 made by "Ember"
Maybe if he acted like they could become a family again....make her feel secure so that she can be persuaded to get the help she needs?
I dunno, but you don't just give up on people.
It just seems like he should be doing more to help get her treatment.
I know they're not a couple anymore, but he is tied to her for the rest of his life through those children.
I know no one can force her, but mental illness is nothing to take lightly and they sure aren't helping her by continuing to stress her out.
I saw the tape of her going to one of the hearings.
She was a nervous wreck and scared to death.
I've been through a custody fight...they are scary and nerve racking and I don't have a MI.
We can't rationalize what she's thinking because we are not mentally ill....but geesh! You'd think KFed would quit poking at her and give her a chance to heal...become better.
I just don't think he's doing enough.
As I said before, the best way that a father can show their kids they love them is by being good to thier mother.
Those kids need both of their parents.
Getting her well should be his first priority after seeing to his children's safety. IMO, he's only perpetuating her troubles.
We do not know what went on inside of that household before we, the public, began seeing signs of Britney's disturbing behaviors. Like addiction, mental illness can be hidden to a certain degree, not only by the person inflicted but by their loved ones as well.
Even
if Britney is mentally ill, Kevin did and continues doing the right thing!! His commitment is to his children, they have to come first, always! Britney needed to stop coming first the day she chose to go ahead with her first pregnancy.
Sometimes the best thing people can do is "give up" on you- sometimes it's exactly what you need to happen in order to do something about the situation you find yourself in. My son lived with me when I was my sickest and he remembers everything. Her kids would too! Until she is willing to put her kids first and begin working on her issues, every time they are with her she is putting them at emotional risk that will follow them for the rest of their lives.
You are right, children
do need both parents so I honestly hope Britney chooses to remain in their lives but she is the only one, by her own actions, who can make that choice!
Nope, even being a mentally ill mother myself, I completely understand and support Kevin, the judge and other posters reasonings behind thinking Britney should not have custody of her children at this time. They are seeing to the kid's stability and safety.. that's the best way a father can show he loves his children, not by enabling their mother!
I know I'll probably get slammed for this post but that's OK because I believe this about my own self as well. When/if I become actively ill again, I'd hope someone would love my son enough to take him from me if/when my behavior got this erratic! Now, ask me my opinion once she gets treatment and I'll be all for her being able and allowed to raise her kids.