It's true that a lot of unrest and stress was occurring in her life (marriage on brink, financial difficulties, new baby on top of two active boys, taking diet pills, etc...) and your thoughts on her just snapping are probably very close to the truth. I certainly am more comfortable viewing this as a passionate and not a calculated act of murder.
Still, let's say you snapped like her and stabbed your sons to death...and then you come to and realize you need to save your own skin, so you slit your throat and stage all this BS and come up with this wild crazy story, etc..etc.. like Darlie did. Okay, so she's in "save my neck" mode at that point and everything she says is a lie and she's lying to cover up her crime and I GET that. It's self-preservative and we all know Darlie is into herself, first and foremost.
But....WHY no remourse at the gravesite - WHY that crazy silly string insanity? WHY the absence of any public grief even though cameras and eyes were on her constantly. If she were still in "save my neck" mode, don't you think she would be weeping and wailing to the high heavens - to look like a grieving parent if nothing else?
Do you think once she killed them in a momentary act of rage, then she truly just did not care and did not miss them and did not grieve? What is the point of keeping all of that in - whether their death is your fault or not? Does she weep alone in her cell at night? Was what she did so heinous that she has somehow managed to convince herself that her lies about that night are true - just so she can continue to live without blowing her brains out?
Where was her grief? Where is her grief? I don't know if I am making any sense, but these things confuse me greatly. This piece of me wants to know that she loved those boys and she just snapped and lost it.
I realize this thread is old, so my apologies for that. But after reading all of the questions and comments here about motive, cover-up, lack of remorse, etc., I have "crossed over" to believing Darlie really is a psychopath (as the prosecutor has stated).
I used to think she just snapped due to stress, diet pills, depression, financial difficulties, marital problems, etc. But she so quickly morphed into cover-up mode, staging the scene and the 911 call. Her stories changed constantly whenever new evidence was brought to light until she finally had to say she had amnesia because she was weaving her own web. (I re-read her court testimony and the prosecutor nailed her on the stand with her own words.) And she was giddy with delight at the graveside once those boys were gone. She tried to make it look good with a few self-serving prayers, but she was celebrating her freedom.
I used to think it was wrong of the prosecutor to show the silly string video because it was irrelevant and we all grieve in our own way, etc. But now I know why he did it, even though there was clearly enough evidence to convict her without it. Because he really believes she is a psychopath. Once I accepted that, then her familial violence makes much more sense and the questions of "why" she did it get answered. Psychopaths can appear perfectly normal and disguise their true feelings. Their criminal actions are so horrific that supporters tend to believe they couldn't possibly have done what they did (as with Darlie).
"Psychopathy (or sociopathy) is traditionally defined as a personality disorder characterized by enduring antisocial behavior, diminished empathy and remorse, and disinhibited or bold behavior." There are many different types, but some of the characteristics are meanness, disdain of close attachments, poor impulse control, violence and narcissism. She fits all those descriptions.
I think the sociopathic topic has been discussed elsewhere in this forum, but I always thought it was too extreme (I tended to think it defined someone like Ted Bundy, for example). But after reading the definition and pondering the "why" questions that keep people supporting her, I'm convinced she fits the bill.
