NC Analyzer
Verified Professional - Child Protective Services
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I do think MR has dug himself a hole for whatever reason. Yes he could be guilty, but his actions and demeanor could also stem from him being just plain difficult, or by all accounts not an especially easy guy to like. While I haven't interpreted what he has said in interviews etc as necessarily incriminating, I don't think he is a particularly eloquent or confident public speaker either. I can grant him a bit of leeway for nerves or anxiety, and I don't believe he is anywhere near the smooth talker who can explain his way out of anything that some choose to make him out to be.
Back to his ever deepening hole - I do feel he made some unwise choices from the day of Dylan's disappearance. Maybe this was due to nerves, guilt, selfishness, pig headedness or even bad advice from others - but I do think that for about two and a half months he has been stuck in that hole and can't claw himself out even if he wants to. A few vocal locals (yay a rhyme! - first grade teacher can you tell?) posting elsewhere would have us believe he would get a very hostile reception anywhere in his village. I'd think that sort of reaction or attention would be unwelcome anywhere near the searchers, or at any past or future event held in Dylan's name. I'm not defending MR's tender feelings here, but I really don't think the organisers of those events would truthfully want their hard work overshadowed by hostilities directed at MR, should he suddenly turn up. I'm pretty sure the dog handlers would be far from impressed with that sort of interference as well.
MR has repeatedly said he understands why he is being investigated, and that he wants this so that LE can then focus on Dylan - but those words are always twisted by others to mean that somehow he is enjoying all the attention. Him staying out of the limelight to avoid attention is then called out as him being callous and uncaring. He can't win - and I know some people are sick of hearing that (I think I have the same reaction to red flags, phone pings, and "on his watch") but he really can't win at this point, no matter what he does or doesn't do.
Could he be guilty? Yes, of course. Am I convinced or ready to call for his arrest? Not even close with what information we have been given.
Well, I'm going to try this one more time. I do agree with everything you've said. But in saying that, I have a couple of things to add.
I don't care how many excuses, reasons or explanations are given for MR and his lousy behavior. The man has obvious problems. He is not only his own worst enemy, he is my worst nightmare. That is my opinion.
It is also my opinion that the man needed to step up to the plate from day one and he did not. If he couldn't do it, he needed to find someone to do it for him. I've haven't seen very many missing child cases that started out like this one did that haven't gone straight downhill.
It would and should be expected that when your child goes missing you do several things in rapid succession:
Appeal to the public for help to find your child. MR did not.
Thank the public for the help they provide when it is provided. MR did not.
Participate in activities designed to raise awareness and funding to bring your child home. MR did not.
Don't conduct interviews that take the focus off your child and place the focus on your relationship with your ex-wife. MR couldn't do this. Not even once.
Do not send text msgs to your children or call your children names that may publicly expose you for being everything you are attempting to pretend not to be.
Do not point the finger of blame toward your ex wife, the custodial parent who lived 400 miles away and had an alibi.
Do not attempt to manipulate your estranged family members into feeling sorry for you. They don't.
Do not play the victim. You aren't. Your child is the victim. So is his mother, his brothers and his extended family.
Do not accuse your ex wife's best friend of abducting your child.
Thank people. (bears repeating)
Be humble and grateful for any support.
Put on your big boy panties and deal with the fact that YOU are the last person to see your son alive. Own responsibility for that fact.
I have more, but I'm done for now....