I for one see the significance here...the fact she is the photo taker / videographer. I was looking at old photos and it dawned on me that there weren't many pictures of myself over the years. I was too busy capturing family moments for myself to cherish in the future especially with my kids. They grow so fast and one day they are young adults. I believe Shannan was the same. The very sentimental mom who loves her girls dearly and wants those special moments to enjoy long after they are grown and out on their own. I also think part of Shannan's responsibility was keeping her husband appeased due to his insecurities and fragile ego. Notice all the wonderful pictures and testimonies she gives him in her SM. Many have suggested she did this to convince herself and her people that she was living the perfect life. There probably is some truth to that but honestly I feel it was more about propping him up then it was her. It seems like she was working to keep him engaged and encouraging him to be interested in BEING party of the family. Not that he was fooling around and attempting to escape or anything. Something deeper. He doesn't feel connections with people like other people do.
I think he had poor social and relationship skills. Again, that ridiculous presentation about how to keep a relationship together. I am going to go out on a limb here based on nothing but my own gut feeling and I've had it since viewing the video...I think he has experienced unhealthy, fractured relationships for a long time, possibly since childhood with his own parents, especially mother. Again, this is MY opinion. It appears it weighed on his mind so much so that he chose it as a topic for his class. This suggests to me possibly a recent break up that really bothered him. Or it could be his realization that he really doesn't have the healthy skills TO have a healthy relationship. If you haven't seen the video something stood out to me that was totally bizarre. Here he is attempting to give a confident and convincing presentation on how to have a healthy long term relationship. At one point as he is reciting what he had written he begins to debate HIS OWN presentation ROFL. The bullet point that he was reciting was about when a relationship breaks down it is normally the BETTER LOOKING PERSON who moves on first. He then says, I don't think that is necessarily true. Well dumbo, this was YOUR presentation so why would you include it if you didn't feel it to be true.
That little scenario says to me someone dumped his butt and in the wake of it he is feeling SHE was not more attractive then HIM... EGO here... Also it revealed something especially significant about his overall character. He is LAZY and unprepared! It tells me he just copied someone else's work verbatim and called it his own. His arguing with himself about it during the presentation says to me he didn't even acknowledge what he was writing when he copied it. He had a paper due, BAAMMMM here is his paper. No thought at all put into it. Well consider what Shannan herself points out on her SM in regards to him. She is cleaning the house, doing wash, caring for the kids and he is laying down on the couch doing NOTHING. LAZY...
I'm going to take enormous license here but I really believe this....he NEVER earned those points in THRIVE by himself. I believe Shannan did the work, had people SHE actually recruited given to her husband so he would earn the car etc. I think initially she recruited him to get him involved because it did take up so much time so she probably thought if he is doing it too, at least they had that in common and he won't feel left out. But this guy is an underachiever. He doesn't HAVE her energy, drive or desire to build his own business. In sales it also takes something else he lacks, he has zero charisma and no shmuzzing skills. He is NOT a people person. So already he is set up to fail. He doesn't have what it takes.
It takes TOTAL committment and he probably thought I have a full time job and I do enough. The fact that she was good at it and excelled would be a further bone of contention for him. It only made it more apparent she has the people skills and drive to be successful all on her own. Doesn't NEED him does she. These guys hate feeling like failures. So I bet he gave excuse after excuse as to why she was doing well and he wasn't. Hey had a full time job, isn't THAT enough. He didn't have the "luxury" of being home all day to pursue it like she did. He would really believe this too. It does not enter into his mind all she has on her plate every day BEYOND doing the THRIVE stuff...she cares for the house, cleans, cooks, laundry, kids, doctors appointments etc. YET she managed to get all that done AND be successful with her business....that had to really rip his a$$ and make him feel like a total loser.
So exactly, looks are deceiving. Video's of him playing with his kids, snaps as well. Those are only minute snippets of one's life. No one would see that he puts the child down after the video and walks away from her. Even their closest friends do not see what happens as soon as they leave the BBQ. Behind closed doors is just that. No witnesses. This guy was all about appearance. He is a fraud.