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If I can figure out change my banner title I think I will pilfer this one! Good one! MOOI respectfully disagree. MOO.
If I can figure out change my banner title I think I will pilfer this one! Good one! MOOI respectfully disagree. MOO.
She's a tough cookie. A survivor. She hitched her wagon to his star because she thought he had money, as did her Mama. Nor did she ever fear JF. All that about being afraid to be in her house was complete BS, IMO. Looking back, JF should have feared her. It's slowly being revealed in the courtroom. Is her family finally getting the picture? It's been several days since their pressers on the courthouse steps. Had the defendant been completely honest with them? Or are they hearing the latest for the first time?
I don't think for one second any of tje Troconis family thought she was innocent. They know her too well. They do seem genuinely upset, though, that she was caught and is being tried.
Excellent synopsis.FD clearly demonstrated that he was a dangerous person, particularly in his prior relationships as we have seen.
But idk if he was dangerous to MT prior to the murder of JF? Could MT have been different and FD treated MT differently than JF and his first wife? Idk if FD would have hurt MT as he initially needed her for his revenge plan against JF. But, would he have hurt her after he didn’t need her any longer for his plans? Or would he have simply discarded her as we saw him do when he moved on to Anna Curry who had the money he needed? Idk, just seemed like FD was something of an opportunistic predator in his relationships and so perhaps the only thing he wanted from MT was to hurt JF? Idk.
What always fascinated me about the insanity and complete self absorption of FD was that he seemed to blame JF for her lack of attention to him (I mean who can forget his quote to the Greek publication where he claimed that they hadn’t had a ‘relationship’ or something along those lines for 6 years) during the period that she had 5 children that he didn’t seem to talk too much about in that article to possibly understand why the relationship dynamic possibly changed during that period. FD seemed to take zero responsibility for the relationship and so seemed to blame JF for everything and then gas lit her in a major way too. He seemed to be quite angry and vengeful that JF wasn’t as attentive or available to him once the house was filled with young children that took up most of her time but he also seemed to willingly spend all the Farber money like the well would never run dry! He seemed to resent anything JF did for herself and particularly seemed mocking of her writing. JF didn’t share his love waterskiing, horror movies and most likely travel was challenging when all the children were small but I’m not sure what the couple ever had in common. Idk, but they just seemed like chalk and cheese with little in common.
I do also wonder about the FD childhood as it seems like he didn’t really understand what having 5 children involves and then you throw in two sets of twins too. He seemed like an only child (think his sister was a good deal older than he was iirc) with no concept of what raising children involves. I continue to scratch my head at FD traveling around the world to pursue waterskiing while JF was home minding the home front. Iirc JF couldn’t even speak with her mother in law who lived nearby unless she spoke Greek and I’ve never read anywhere that JF spoke any Greek! It’s a bit mind boggling as it wasn’t as if FD were a professional athlete and water skiing was his profession. Nope, it was an expensive hobby by all accounts. But my guess is that JF enjoyed the silence when FD wasn’t home.
Or, would FD have dumped MT after the couple got away with the murder of the century (assuming this happened of course!) as FD moved on to younger and greener $$$ pastures?
I have long suspected that MT meant nothing to FD other than possibly sex and a side kick who shared his interests as her primary purpose was simply as a tool to torment JF. MT lacked any of the attributes of other prior relationships as she seemed crass and crude and didn’t offer anything financially to the relationship. Idk, MT just doesn’t seem like FD MO on the relationship ladder of life! But she played a role that to FD was important for a period of time and I just wonder what that might have been? Perhaps it was as simple as she gave him the undivided attention JF would not or could not? Maybe, IDK.
But playing out your thought, I do wonder if had FD and MT gotten away with the murder would FD have dumped MT or continued on as is until he found a bigger fish or would he have married her and they spent xx number of years watching each other and waiting for one or both to cheat? Or some version of any of these ideas?
Relationships amongst co conspirators are important and there was something that kept FD and MT together and plotting with KM. I’m not sure we understand it all enough to figure out what the FD and MT dynamic was. Sometimes I wonder if it was dominant and submissive but other times listening to MT in her LE interviews I then questioned whether those roles were actually reversed? Wish we understood the dynamic better.
Just me thinking and typing as I still can’t process MT staying with FD as the relationship had a foundation of sand as virtually everything the couple had came from Farber money and their world and relationship bubble was collapsing. I’m just not getting this part of the overall puzzle…..
But I’ve been doing a bit of reading on malignant narcissists and I just wonder if perhaps in this case two of these evil types simply found each other and then just used each other for their own mutual ends and would stay together for as long as one or the other needed the other and then the relationship would fizzle once the intense mutual need period ended? MT and FD have imo more similarities than differences which is always something I found interesting about them as a couple.
MOO
Me too, if if helped find Jennifer faster.Boy, if I were innocent, I'd allow my phone, my handbag contents, my shoe prints etc...in full display and up for analysis.
Was he dangerous to MT, absolutely. And you see that she knew it in some level in that she never challenged him. Ever. She didn't use sex as a weapon. She used it to be the cool one with Fotis so she could imagine she was safe- and keep her hinky meter confused.FD clearly demonstrated that he was a dangerous person, particularly in his prior relationships as we have seen.
But idk if he was dangerous to MT prior to the murder of JF? Could MT have been different and FD treated MT differently than JF and his first wife? Idk if FD would have hurt MT as he initially needed her for his revenge plan against JF. But, would he have hurt her after he didn’t need her any longer for his plans? Or would he have simply discarded her as we saw him do when he moved on to Anna Curry who had the money he needed? Idk, just seemed like FD was something of an opportunistic predator in his relationships and so perhaps the only thing he wanted from MT was to hurt JF? Idk.
What always fascinated me about the insanity and complete self absorption of FD was that he seemed to blame JF for her lack of attention to him (I mean who can forget his quote to the Greek publication where he claimed that they hadn’t had a ‘relationship’ or something along those lines for 6 years) during the period that she had 5 children that he didn’t seem to talk too much about in that article to possibly understand why the relationship dynamic possibly changed during that period. FD seemed to take zero responsibility for the relationship and so seemed to blame JF for everything and then gas lit her in a major way too. He seemed to be quite angry and vengeful that JF wasn’t as attentive or available to him once the house was filled with young children that took up most of her time but he also seemed to willingly spend all the Farber money like the well would never run dry! He seemed to resent anything JF did for herself and particularly seemed mocking of her writing. JF didn’t share his love waterskiing, horror movies and most likely travel was challenging when all the children were small but I’m not sure what the couple ever had in common. Idk, but they just seemed like chalk and cheese with little in common.
I do also wonder about the FD childhood as it seems like he didn’t really understand what having 5 children involves and then you throw in two sets of twins too. He seemed like an only child (think his sister was a good deal older than he was iirc) with no concept of what raising children involves. I continue to scratch my head at FD traveling around the world to pursue waterskiing while JF was home minding the home front. Iirc JF couldn’t even speak with her mother in law who lived nearby unless she spoke Greek and I’ve never read anywhere that JF spoke any Greek! It’s a bit mind boggling as it wasn’t as if FD were a professional athlete and water skiing was his profession. Nope, it was an expensive hobby by all accounts. But my guess is that JF enjoyed the silence when FD wasn’t home.
Or, would FD have dumped MT after the couple got away with the murder of the century (assuming this happened of course!) as FD moved on to younger and greener $$$ pastures?
I have long suspected that MT meant nothing to FD other than possibly sex and a side kick who shared his interests as her primary purpose was simply as a tool to torment JF. MT lacked any of the attributes of other prior relationships as she seemed crass and crude and didn’t offer anything financially to the relationship. Idk, MT just doesn’t seem like FD MO on the relationship ladder of life! But she played a role that to FD was important for a period of time and I just wonder what that might have been? Perhaps it was as simple as she gave him the undivided attention JF would not or could not? Maybe, IDK.
But playing out your thought, I do wonder if had FD and MT gotten away with the murder would FD have dumped MT or continued on as is until he found a bigger fish or would he have married her and they spent xx number of years watching each other and waiting for one or both to cheat? Or some version of any of these ideas?
Relationships amongst co conspirators are important and there was something that kept FD and MT together and plotting with KM. I’m not sure we understand it all enough to figure out what the FD and MT dynamic was. Sometimes I wonder if it was dominant and submissive but other times listening to MT in her LE interviews I then questioned whether those roles were actually reversed? Wish we understood the dynamic better.
Just me thinking and typing as I still can’t process MT staying with FD as the relationship had a foundation of sand as virtually everything the couple had came from Farber money and their world and relationship bubble was collapsing. I’m just not getting this part of the overall puzzle…..
But I’ve been doing a bit of reading on malignant narcissists and I just wonder if perhaps in this case two of these evil types simply found each other and then just used each other for their own mutual ends and would stay together for as long as one or the other needed the other and then the relationship would fizzle once the intense mutual need period ended? MT and FD have imo more similarities than differences which is always something I found interesting about them as a couple.
MOO
I agree with this. They know what she did, and they don’t care-they only care that she is being held responsible.I don't think for one second any of tje Troconis family thought she was innocent. They know her too well. They do seem genuinely upset, though, that she was caught and is being tried.
And that their family name "Troconis" is associated with yet another criminal matter...MURDER. "Gosh darn these Troconis women can't stay out of trouble. We have to constantly stop our lives, ban together and support this nonsense to protect our family heritage and important surname." Very delusional folks, although, they have been pretty silent lately.I don't think for one second any of tje Troconis family thought she was innocent. They know her too well. They do seem genuinely upset, though, that she was caught and is being tried.
Yes, and if that is the case, many would say that she let him control her? Not sure the specifics of the relationship, but if elements of codependency that can be complicated and without good boundaries. And also concur it does not mean she is not guilty. MOOYeah. Fotis controlled her. It doesn't mean she's not guilty.
MOO
Maybe MT’s got “the kavorka” (if you are a Seinfeld fan), and she is just soooo alluring?And that their family name "Troconis" is associated with yet another criminal matter...MURDER. "Gosh darn these Troconis women can't stay out of trouble. We have to constantly stop our lives, ban together and support this nonsense to protect our family heritage and important surname." Very delusional folks, although, they have been pretty silent lately.
I do wonder what the new boyfriend thinks after hearing all of this information? I can't imagine anyone would tolerate this amont of stress and be willing to trust the defendant, but who knows?
Try looking at it in terms of the dynamic between a malignant narcissist and a covert narcissist. They go hand-in-hand like two peas in a pod.FD clearly demonstrated that he was a dangerous person, particularly in his prior relationships as we have seen.
But idk if he was dangerous to MT prior to the murder of JF? Could MT have been different and FD treated MT differently than JF and his first wife? Idk if FD would have hurt MT as he initially needed her for his revenge plan against JF. But, would he have hurt her after he didn’t need her any longer for his plans? Or would he have simply discarded her as we saw him do when he moved on to Anna Curry who had the money he needed? Idk, just seemed like FD was something of an opportunistic predator in his relationships and so perhaps the only thing he wanted from MT was to hurt JF? Idk.
What always fascinated me about the insanity and complete self absorption of FD was that he seemed to blame JF for her lack of attention to him (I mean who can forget his quote to the Greek publication where he claimed that they hadn’t had a ‘relationship’ or something along those lines for 6 years) during the period that she had 5 children that he didn’t seem to talk too much about in that article to possibly understand why the relationship dynamic possibly changed during that period. FD seemed to take zero responsibility for the relationship and so seemed to blame JF for everything and then gas lit her in a major way too. He seemed to be quite angry and vengeful that JF wasn’t as attentive or available to him once the house was filled with young children that took up most of her time but he also seemed to willingly spend all the Farber money like the well would never run dry! He seemed to resent anything JF did for herself and particularly seemed mocking of her writing. JF didn’t share his love waterskiing, horror movies and most likely travel was challenging when all the children were small but I’m not sure what the couple ever had in common. Idk, but they just seemed like chalk and cheese with little in common.
I do also wonder about the FD childhood as it seems like he didn’t really understand what having 5 children involves and then you throw in two sets of twins too. He seemed like an only child (think his sister was a good deal older than he was iirc) with no concept of what raising children involves. I continue to scratch my head at FD traveling around the world to pursue waterskiing while JF was home minding the home front. Iirc JF couldn’t even speak with her mother in law who lived nearby unless she spoke Greek and I’ve never read anywhere that JF spoke any Greek! It’s a bit mind boggling as it wasn’t as if FD were a professional athlete and water skiing was his profession. Nope, it was an expensive hobby by all accounts. But my guess is that JF enjoyed the silence when FD wasn’t home.
Or, would FD have dumped MT after the couple got away with the murder of the century (assuming this happened of course!) as FD moved on to younger and greener $$$ pastures?
I have long suspected that MT meant nothing to FD other than possibly sex and a side kick who shared his interests as her primary purpose was simply as a tool to torment JF. MT lacked any of the attributes of other prior relationships as she seemed crass and crude and didn’t offer anything financially to the relationship. Idk, MT just doesn’t seem like FD MO on the relationship ladder of life! But she played a role that to FD was important for a period of time and I just wonder what that might have been? Perhaps it was as simple as she gave him the undivided attention JF would not or could not? Maybe, IDK.
But playing out your thought, I do wonder if had FD and MT gotten away with the murder would FD have dumped MT or continued on as is until he found a bigger fish or would he have married her and they spent xx number of years watching each other and waiting for one or both to cheat? Or some version of any of these ideas?
Relationships amongst co conspirators are important and there was something that kept FD and MT together and plotting with KM. I’m not sure we understand it all enough to figure out what the FD and MT dynamic was. Sometimes I wonder if it was dominant and submissive but other times listening to MT in her LE interviews I then questioned whether those roles were actually reversed? Wish we understood the dynamic better.
Just me thinking and typing as I still can’t process MT staying with FD as the relationship had a foundation of sand as virtually everything the couple had came from Farber money and their world and relationship bubble was collapsing. I’m just not getting this part of the overall puzzle…..
But I’ve been doing a bit of reading on malignant narcissists and I just wonder if perhaps in this case two of these evil types simply found each other and then just used each other for their own mutual ends and would stay together for as long as one or the other needed the other and then the relationship would fizzle once the intense mutual need period ended? MT and FD have imo more similarities than differences which is always something I found interesting about them as a couple.
MOO
Yes, she has done a number of other videos on the trial and sometimes getting an atty's take on things can be interesting. She also has been flagging potential areas for the appeal sometimes in her commentary. She only picked up this case recently so doesn't have all the back story on the various participants but she is working hard I think to make a complicated crime accessible to folks online and I'm glad she is following the case.Afitzy thank you for posting the video from Harvard Lawyer Lee. It was very interesting to see the police discuss their thoughts on mT when she leaves the room.
Also interesting, the first comment under the video the person thought MT opened the door to lean out and touch the sidewalk right then because she was (trying) to hide him with the door open while he dumped the plates in the sewer.
I have heard others say that, too.