FifthEssence
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Please forgive my posting my request here as I have no clue as to where to post this. I am asking for prayers for myself and family. My 37 year old son passed away unexpectly in his sleep on March 31st. I am so sorry to post here but I wanted to share and ask for prayers. Thank you. Extrasuper
Extra,
you have my deepest and most sincere condolences. Sometimes even the prayers and sympathies of people isn't going to be enough to soothe such a terrible loss, and the next year is going to be a task of learning to cope with part of your heart missing. I know, I lost my 39 yr old son last year in July, unexpectedly. He passed away a mere 2 wks before his 40th birthday. People will tell you he lives on in your memories, in your heart , in your thought and to a certain degree that is true, but it won't take the place of being able to talk to him, laugh with him and feel his hugs as his mom. You will find yourself crying at unexpected and sometimes inappropriate times, and feel ashamed that it just happens without your permission. Some people will react with horror in their faces if you try to talk about it as if pain is contageous. You will think of him a great deal through every 24 hours for several months. Once in a great while a break will come and you will notice other things besides your loss. Embrace those moments. They will come, slowly at first and then with greater regularity and last longer. At some point you will even find humor again and the first time you really laugh, you will feel guilty as if it is some barrier to proving how much you love son and feel as if you have somehow betrayed him for feeling like laughing. it's okay to feel that way, and its even okay to laugh anyway. At some point you will find yourself wondering why such a wonderful person was snatched away and so many who are cruel and undeserving are left behind.
I wish I knew that answer... it hasn't been long enough for me yet to tell you what the answer to that is. But I do know this. My heart feels your pain, your shock, your despair, your confusion and your loss more deeply than you know and I WILL pray for you... long and hard and often that God gives you the grace and light to find your way through this dark time until you come out the other side and back into the light of day again. I am a faceless stranger, but I care... deeply, what happens to you and to your family. If you don't remember any of this, that's okay too, but hang on to this one thing.... stay your course so that when your time comes , you will see his face first on your own life's journey into the the next phase. Death is not an ending, just a brief separation, and when it's time to join again, he will be there to welcome you and ask "what took you so long!?"
My love to you and my most heartfelt best wishes... write me anytime... I would love to hear you tell me your son's story... who he was , what he was like... I have a lot of time to listen and I promise .. I do understand..:rose:
Lawrie
You have our PRAYERS for sure.
raying: raying: raying: raying: raying:
We are NEVER prepared for a loss of this magnitude. Words fall short for expressing our condolences. Many of us are parents so hearing your sons having passed on and unexpectedly even moreso, makes one drop to their knees and feel some of your pain. We're with you, beside you.
Fortunately here at Websleuths, there are many who are willing to send out PRAYERS for your family and to support you on the path that lies ahead.
May I suggest your go over to the Forum titled : THE JURY ROOM
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There, you may open up a thread titled however you wish to list it. It's YOURS.
Members participate 24 hours a day so if your having a moment when you need to get a virtual hug and hear comforting words and thoughts from truly compassionate caring people, some who have experienced the same, that's the place to visit. If you need to simply express your feelings, go right ahead. It's safe. We're all here for YOU.
ETA: I see Katy listed a PRAYER Thread above. thanks.
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showthread.php?t=115689&page=52