This mother, NOT step-mother was doing everything she could to find her daughter.....she told law officers evcerything they wanted to know about her daughter.....
Hi sunshine, nice to meet ya. This mother you refer to, giving her the benefit of the doubt about her personal comments concerning Maria, I can believe it and go along with it being mis-construed and used out of context. I can see how that could have occurred along with law enforcement and the military using this to benefit their own neglect concerning this case.
HOWEVER,
The mother, the caretaker, the parent or guardian, is the source of the alleged behaviorial traits of the child. We must not loose site of that. A child isn't diagnose in behaviorial areas as not being normal unless the adult caretaker or school officials intervene and say it's soooooo. Period!!!! Not angry with you sunshine, angry about the situation, :blowkiss: had to throw that in.
A child is repeatedly taken to the doctors, therapists, and specialists and they only can go on what the caretaker is relaying to them on a daily level. They spend a smidgen of time with the actual patient or subject. They solely almost 95 percent of their diagnosis is from the reporting parent.
In other words, the reporting, accussing caretaker is the one to get the wheels of diagnosis labeling turning and churning in the first place. It is the seed, root of where it all first began. It does not take a licensed trained medical specialist to know environment and the raising is alot to be held into the account of a child's outcome. Especially when it's behavioral. I know what I'm talking about in these areas.
Example: I had a friend on the next street, Mary, who had an only child Lonnie, she kept him at the doctors consistenly complaining of everything the poor child done. I kept him many times for hours upon hours. There was nothing wrong with Lonnie. It was the mother. Anyone ever heard of Munchaesun by Proxy? Not saying this is the case in this situation, but it does happen. I believe Mary has it, because her second child, 9 years later, calling and checking upon her after the baby was born, she rattled off about 5 different major diagnosis with this baby, who is healthy. She's pregnant again, just saw her Friday. She lost custody of Lonnie a year ago to the Father when they divorced. The husband stayed married and supported them all those years, but couldn't live with her on a regular basis. She has improved.
Another thought, adoption etc... and then if the child is labeled with a sickness or behavioral disorder, the state comes in and gives those caretakers all kinds of benefits, monies etc... I know several people who did this very thing, using children to benefit monetarily. Sad but true. I'm not accusing all caretakers and parents of making things up about their children.
That's why I would seriously like to know more about this relationship with the woman who adopted this marine at the age of 19 months, which is fairly old for a baby adoption. Was it from a state agency? Has this Mary been in the system before concerning the Elderly and children? I hope this is not the case, but I'm keeping my mind open, something has went tragically wrong for a mother to take five days to report her absent, missing, quiet about to give birth any moment daughter a call to help.
I also want to point out again, what tends to make me further feel this way, is Marine Durham's statements concerning the very last contact between expectant mother to be, and the adoptive mother. How in the name of anything, can this woman predict what kind of mother Maria would have been. Sounds like to me she's played ball in these areas in the past, being she's herself gotten someone else's baby, even if it is legally. She to me, has a heart (Possibly), I'm not convinced yet, of passing judgement upon mothers in general. That last phone call tells me sooooooooo much about the mind and heart of both Maria and the adoptive mother.
Sunshine, I wanted to add again, these opinions of mine aren't directed to you personally, and I appreciate your posts and opinions. Peace! :blowkiss:
